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Attachment in Common Sense and Doodles: A Practical Guide

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Miriam Silver, Teg Lansdell

  • Attachment in Common Sense and Doodles

208 pages
2013
ISBN: 9781849053143

Attachment is a word used to describe a simple idea; the relationship with someone you love or whose opinions are important to you; so why is so much of the language relating to attachment so obscure, and why is it so challenging to help children who lack healthy attachment bonds?

Attachment in Common Sense and Doodles aims to bring some clarity and simplicity to the subject. Providing grounded information and advice accompanied by a series of simple 'doodles' throughout, it explains attachment in language that is easy to understand and describes how to apply this information in everyday life. It describes how the attachment patterns in children who are adopted or fostered differ, summarises the latest research in the field and provides advice on how to repair attachment difficulties and to build secure, loving relationships.

Covering all of the 'need to know' issues including how to spot attachment difficulties, build resilience and empathy and responding to problematic behaviour, this book will be an invaluable resource for families and professionals caring for children who are fostered, adopted or who have experienced early trauma.

Table of Contents

Acknowledgements.

Foreword by Camila Batmanghelidjh.

Preface.

  1. What is Attachment and Why Does it Matter?
  2. Can Attachment Patterns Change?
  3. What is 'Good Enough' Care, and What Does it Do?
  4. Shaping Behaviour.
  5. Effects of Parenting on the Infant's Brain.
  6. Through the Generations.
  7. Changing Patterns: The Tug of War of Attachment.
  8. Arousal Revisited.
  9. The Calm and the Storm.
  10. Diagnoses.
  11. Understanding Thoughts, Feelings and Behaviours.
  12. Parenting with PACE.
  13. Layers.
  14. Shame and Changing the Norm.
  15. Roles and Belonging.
  16. Stories.
  17. Time Holes and Triggers.
  18. Patterns That Suck Us In.
  19. Heroes.

Appendix: The Impact of Poor Early Care.

Glossary.

References.

Additional Reading.

Index.

"Here is an excellent guide to the complex theory of attachment and trauma... Along the way the author uses case studies and the theories are reinforced by the memorable doodles of the title. There are helpful activities for young people and carers... I particularly liked the way that this book really is directed to parents and carers. Miriam Silver is writing about many things from our perspective and is hugely understanding of the frustrations we sometimes feel... The author deals with critical issues such as spotting attachment difficulties, how to nurture empathy and how to tackle problematic behaviour.l I would certainly recommend that you add this to your must-read list."
- Side by Side

"Dr. Silver takes sophisticated psychological issues and uses real-life case studies, creative excercises and simple sketches to succinctly explain the issues and give caregivers tools to deal with them. "Attachment in Common Sense and Doodles" is aimed for foster parents, social workers, adoptive parents and others who work with children who have grown up with trauma, neglect or abuse. That said, I recomment it for a much wider audience. While this book is written for those who work with children placed away from the home, I would recomment it to all parents and professionals who work with children. These are issues that a crucial for all kids, and the book does an excellent job of explaining why they matter and what to do. The book can also a be good tool for parents who are themselves survivors of less-then-ideal parenting... I highly recommend this book. It is an incredibly well-written book that will really give caregivers the tools they need to help their children thrive."
- The Examiner

"With theory as her cloth and ideas as her cottons, the author creates a rich tapestry that clearly and beautifully evokes the dance between children and their caregivers that is the story of attachment. From its earliest antecedents in the maternal womb to its revelation and evolution across the lifespan, the content of this book offers hope and validation of caregiving that sets children up for a lifetime of success, happiness and insightful caregiving of their own children. Though written with the caregivers of looked after children in mind, there is a depth and breadth to this book that will satisfy a broad audience of adults who hold a caring concern for all children."
- Colby Pearce, Principal Clinical Psychologist, Secure Start, Australia and author of A Short Introduction to Attachment and Attachment Disorder and A Short Introduction to Promoting Resilience in Children